Saturday, December 26, 2009

Low and high..The law of life...

"Life is not just one big high, it comes with it's lows too.
And what doesn't kill you, only makes you stronger.
Its like playing a game of scrabble. Join the bits and pieces. Someday, all of it will make sense."

I was going through one my old notebooks. Found it scribbled on the last page. Source, unknown.

The bitter-sweet life :)

Three days of tandem "makkhi-maaroing" sessions in a doctor’s clinic can leave you somewhere between highly amused and supremely annoyed!!

Even if you are the sanest of all, madness may take its toll…especially when the doctor bombs you with such a “thought-provoking” question…" what do you think happened to your back?"

Amongst the trillions of barbed responses to the question rattling inside your head and an urgent fancy to yell “Whaaaaaaaaaaaatttt? Do you think I would be coming to you if I had known?”, you control your mouth from flip opening and barking.

After carrying out more tests than the NASA scientists would conduct to launch a space shuttle, all he had to say was “The blut (blood) looks gut (good). So, I don’t know”

“Wow…how bright is that?” I was speechless! I took the deepest exaggerated breath I could and left. Passive still some aggression..isn’t it?

OMG, my head starts spinning to even think about the next visit. God..I seriously think the intelligent life on Earth is getting extinct. Anyhow...until I see him again, I am treating myself to the surprise Christmas goodies my very thoughtful room-mate has gifted me (Chocolates=Endorphins=may be Feel Good Factor)

BTW when I was a kid, chocolates used to mean only Cadbury. And whenever Cadbury pings inside my head, the advertisement that has the most recall value is this particular one. Ohhhhhh..I used to loooooooooove this girl!

Hmmm...someone said "Being sick might not be fun…but being spoiled surley is!" ;) So while I hog on the chocolates to test the “apparent high” the neurologists claim, you go and check out the video :)

Sunday, December 20, 2009

A matter of options.

I am the eldest of the three sisters.
I had my choices in life. I’m really glad that I did.
To make what I wanted out of myself. To exercise free spirit. To practice fierce independence. And to manage the chaos that followed when I abused the former two.

But thanks, someone reminded me yesterday that
“You are a woman at the end of the day!
Come what may, there are certain things which are out of your say.”

(I know that’s injurious poetry, but it rhymes, so come alongwith me for now)

Hmmm.actually there's no polite way to break this in, so I'll be downright direct.

Alright, so as a woman, what are the options I enjoy in life?
Did I/ or will I ever run;

1. An option of turning home midnight, piss drunk, sweaty after ceaseless puffing and mambo-jambo-ing? I am sure no one appreciates a woman who does that (Bahot “forward” hai!!) I am yet to meet a man, who thinks otherwise, not one who says he does.

2. An option of saying that all I know is turning on the stove in the kitchen? (“Whaaaaaaaaaat she doesn’t know how to cook???????”) Yes, because while being a man you were too busy preparing for your medical entrances, AIEEE, CAT etc etc, unfortunately I was writing those exams too. And fair enough, there were no grace marks for females who could demonstrate their expert culinary skills! So it wasn’t worth the hassle!

3. An option of expecting tea, breakfast, a packed lunch box and a dinner at the end of the day? So what if I am tired or I had a bad day or I stand a deadline. I am a woman. Didn’t my mom teach me how to multitask? (Funny enough, a distant cousin of mine used to shout “Chavanyaprash” at his breakfast table everyday, and his wife used to scoop out a spoonful for him, right in front of his mouth!)

4. An option of staying back late in the office for that one raise I could kill for? May be not. I don’t have to take my work thaaaaaaaaaat seriously, even if I receive the same pay cheque. And if need arises, I sure do always run an option of belittling my academic pursuits. I am a woman; I am raised that way (When the kids had to score good marks in the board exams, my aunt had to quit her job. Period. )

5. An option of confessing love? May be not.(Arre woh bhi aisi hai?) Kaisi hai bhai?? You know..“that kind” of easy women who do it. Because ‘she’ who asked one, may be asked too many..who knows?

6. An option of saying NO, to leave behind my parents, my siblings, and my home and even my name? (even if my surname runs 10 Km long)To let go of everything that I had. And gladly accept everything that belongs to him. Imagine how tough it would be wake up to a new him, an entirely new house, new people and may be a new country for some. A man would never know, because there are chances that he would never be asked to.

7. An option of asking? Remember..he is the only one I know in that new house? I am human and there are times when I may goof up or simply don’t understand him. (Yo..sometimes obvious hints don’t work!!!And what if I feel like chopping off the hair of his highly snooty cousin, or I am suppressing the urge to poke his nosy aunt right in her eye? Do I run the option to tell, to blow it off?) I am not sure. I am a woman, and good women don’t ask too many questions or manifest anger (wrongly labeled “mood swings”).

8. An option of bumping in to one of my old school friend (The friend in question may be a man and very much single).and chat away to glory over a cup of tea?( Naiii....kahin sasu ma ne dekh liya toh? Ya phir unhe achcha nahin laga toh?)

9. An option of raising my kid myself; walk out on a man who beats me black and blue because unfortunately he knows that God made him stronger physically.(And its deceitful to think that only gaon ke gawar do that. Well read, city bred people also very much do that!) And no matter how progressive the Indian society might be a divorced woman is still subjected to that “haaaawwwwww” eyes!

I guess I may scribble days and nights over this. And I am very sure there’s already a clan of “We hate her. Use pakad ke maaro” men somewhere in the making(I will not go for my morning walk tomorrow:P).But I am yet to get enough inspired in life, so as to practice and preach pro-feminism.

All I want to say is that God (I am randomly assuming God is a he! Please suit yourself and don’t run a debate over this) was not partial. Neither to men nor to women.

While he bestowed the gift of making babies to women, he made sure that it still was a team effort.

He bestowed man with bumper muscles to protect and woo his woman ;), fetch food (without thinking that he will use it to subjugate the opposite sex) and he made women emotionally stronger (without anticipating a well calculated exploitation of the same asset by her!)

So you see..WE acted super smart. We diced in the societal norms. Women are supposed to do this and that is a Man’s job. I mean except where nature sets in discretion, who are we to entitle each other with a given set of options?

So guys you can wash the dishes. Only girls would do it is no default setting!

And females. You can lift the boxes; drag the suitcases and stop crying and acting vulnerable to get your job done. That’s next to blackmailing. And it is pathetic!

1.I think I am aware of the guy’s side of the story. But if you think I acted nasty. Please go ahead and enlighten me :)

2. I am not appreciative of excessive boozing, smoking, showing disrespect and walking out on a relationship. And it makes me feel proud that only women can combine marriage, children, and a career. Just that I think it’s unfair to tie the performance leash only on her.